So I've realised I need to stop being such an introvert for me to accomplish my goals and I guess the main reason for that is I don't have many friends to hang out with. All my current friends are gamers who i connect with from home. So can you guys recommend me a book or a blog or something for making friends in school/college/uni?

I cannot recommend a book or a blog, cause I don't know one.

But I can tell you: it is ridiculously easy to make friends at the university. Especially if you are all freshman, just go up to people and talk to them. Almost nobody knows anyone, nobody knows what to expect or where to go, so basically everybody is thankful for a friendly voice.
Exchange numbers, call the other person up and explore the nightlife.

There really is no big secret to it, just talk and be friendly, and sooner or later you will come across people with whom you become friends.

Most university's have groups or associations you can join that make meeting like minded people easy. When I was in university, i got really involved in the theatre program, and ended up meeting a shit ton of people who are into the same things as me, and I used to be the biggest introvert in the world. Figure out what it is that interests you, and look around campus for any kind of a group thats into these things, whether its a book club, sports, students association, activist group, etc. Just make sure its something you like.

Yeah, clubs are good, and they don't even have to be cool ones - debating or model un would involve a ton of socializing. Make sure to pick one that has girls though (not to hook up with, just generally a good sign that it's a group of well adjusted people. Also, no RPG clubs).

(05-09-2011 09:01 AM)Altitude Wrote:  So I've realised I need to stop being such an introvert for me to accomplish my goals and I guess the main reason for that is I don't have many friends to hang out with. All my current friends are gamers who i connect with from home. So can you guys recommend me a book or a blog or something for making friends in school/college/uni?

That's your first problem right there. You're not going to make friends and hook up with girls by playing video games or reading books & blogs. Like the guys said above, you've got to get out there and join a club or get more involved in class.

Take it from me as a guy who was a HUUUGE gamer about 10 years ago - I was an introvert as well and my best friends were of the internet variety. The more you get involved in the outside world, the more friends you will make and the happier you will be.

Go to parties, go to themed nights at the bar, join clubs and play sports and join intra-mural activities. Say "yes" to every opportunity you're given. I think that getting involved in class discussions is very important as well. It lets people know that you exist. That's the best way to make friends & start building your social life.

I guess the answer was pretty obvious.

If you are not making any friends at uni its probably because you dont speak to anyone. Simple as that

but since you asked for one here is a blog which teaches you the basic skills to be more social

http://www.succeedsocially.com/

thanks for the link bro looks useful.[/align]

If you are an introvert in the sense that you don't initiate conversations unless there is a good context for them, then you're like me. I have had a lot of success just from going up to people and talking without a good reason for it. I used to think that this was soulless and wouldn't help me meet worthwhile people, but I was wrong.

I'll beat the dead horse here and say that this is the sort of thing you need to do as well as read about. Reading will give you some good ideas, but applying them is where you really figure stuff out. Starting out, I think I read some random search results from the word "popularity," and then I tried it out on the coffee jock at Starbucks.

(05-13-2011 05:16 AM)Gaius Theremin Wrote:  If you are an introvert in the sense that you don't initiate conversations unless there is a good context for them, then you're like me. I have had a lot of success just from going up to people and talking without a good reason for it. I used to think that this was soulless and wouldn't help me meet worthwhile people, but I was wrong.

I'll beat the dead horse here and say that this is the sort of thing you need to do as well as read about. Reading will give you some good ideas, but applying them is where you really figure stuff out. Starting out, I think I read some random search results from the word "popularity," and then I tried it out on the coffee jock at Starbucks.

I've realised my main trouble is connecting with people. It's very easy for me to meet people through friends but then I don't really connect with them enough to make them into a friend.