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I realize this is a pretty ancient community concept, but I felt it's still a valid concept to explore, or reexplore.

I think mirroring is a pretty solid way to build both attraction and comfort.

Now, I havent really use mirroring for a long time in pickup, but I cant help but realize how useful it is in sales.

Basically, I do a lot of sales over the phone and my friend taught me the importance of mirroring.

Basically, I greet my client first with my name and start to mirror them base on the tonality of their voice.

If their voice sounds soft, I would sound soft like them but at the same time, I put in a slightly higher level of dominance in my voice.

If their voice sounds loud, rude, short and dominant, I would do the same and put in a slightly higher level of dominance then them.

I notice that as I do this, my client voice naturally start to sounds softer and subconsciously trust and respect me more and I was able to get them to trust the product more.

I think that if the person you're talking to is naturally super shy, if you came in gun blazing, you'll freak the hell out of that person.

However, if the person is naturally dominant and you came in 50 percent less dominant, they would look at you in scorn.

In fact, mirroring and upping your level of dominant is pretty much the entire basis of subcommunication in the community.

Given the fact that I cant convey dominance through my body language, I realize how much you can convey merely from your voice.

If you're dominant, your voice sounds deeper, louder, and have a slightly rude type of emotion conveying. Sometime this is needed to build more respect and trust.

I'm going to field test this more on girls and get back to you guys how effective it is infield.

Finally something I agree with you on. I did a lot of non verbals when i first started reading about the community, and i was already doing tonality naturally. Every time I meet another alpha, it's like my voice gains some bass and authority and we both understand one another. When I meet a cute girl on the street I soften it up based on vibe and her responses. In my opinion tonality's pretty important. You can start making things sexual just by changing the tone of your voice and the way you speak. Authoritative vocal tonality combined with a solid inner game, makes for an indestructible mix.

I think in mirroring in pickup is something that just happens naturally. The only time I think about it is with texting, if she sends a short text I reply with a short text...

I don't like the term "mirroring" but I agree with what you said, Brian. I don't like the term because it implies you continually follow exactly, which threw me off for a while. However, I totally agree that it's really effective to calibrate to where she is, then go from there. A lot of this stuff should and does happen naturally, but if for anybody who is getting blown out, this is a good thing to think about - are you pacing yourself to where the girl is at and leading from there, or just coming out of left field?

I agree, if you're tuned into them and vice-versa, this will happen naturally. Although I do remember consciously trying to do this when I started out and being surprised by how effective it was.