I just don't give a fuck anymore. I've come to the conclusion that no matter how hard I try (or how little), I will never get girls. I give up. Mark, just delete my account, because I'm not coming back here again. I fucking suck at life.
Yes you suck. Don't post here asking for sympathy. Go to momma for that.
You should look at it like this:
If you keep going and keep practicing, there's a possibility of getting a girl, no matter how slim.
If you quit and just sit at home all the time, there's absolutely zero chance of getting a girl.
When you look at it like that, you really don't have any choice but keep going.
did something happen or did this come out of the blue?
dude, took me over 3 years and I'm just starting to get it. Relajate (relax). It'll come. I've been through so many frustrating situations where I either blew something or felt like I didn't get it at all. It'll start to gel eventually - promise. Just do your best to pick yourself up - and try to learn something from every mistake. Just keep moving forward. You'll get it, and it'll be worth it.
I think it sounds like you need to take a few steps back and focus on yourself for a while. Girls (and guys, and everyone for that matter) can smell desperation and its really unattractive. Don't focus on getting your present self laid, focus on getting your 6 months in the future self laid.
Discount any of these if they don't apply to you but my suggestions would be these:
1) Give yourself a challenging but achievable physical goal - this will depend on your level of fitness.
An epic 100 mile bike trip. Squat your bodyweight. Sprint a mile in the best time you can. Learn to snowboard. Climb a mountain! Bonus points if its a team or group activity. The aim here is to improve your looks and fitness while it not being directly related to pickup. It should also be fun.
2) Get at least 2 new interesting hobbies, again preferably group activities (One of these can be a sport, fulfilling point 1!). I can't count how many people I meet whose only activities are working, videogames and watching TV. They aren't hobbies, that is merely maintenance. Look around for a bit to find something you can be passionate about. The aim of this point is to give you interesting shit to talk about, and the best way of getting that is to be doing interesting things.
3) Expand your social circle. If you've followed the above two points, by now you should be making lots of new friends. Focus on filling your social circle with people you genuinely like and who like you. Be friendly to everyone you meet. Be friends with women too - actual friends, not just waiting around to see if she'll pity fuck you. Meet their social circles, and add more women to yours!
After 6 months of this, you should hopefully be more confident, social, accomplished, fit and interesting and therefore more attractive to the opposite sex. Additionally, you should be having such a blast with your friends and interests that getting laid isn't the be all and end all of your existence anymore, which is coincidentally more attractive to the opposite sex. Weird how that works, isn't it?
Also, if you're a massive complainer, it's annoying, so don't do that. Not even on the internet!
http://www.practicalpickup.com/forum/sho...hp?tid=475
Check that thread out that Fckd did a while back and it will explain it all. He's got a lot of inner issues he needs to work on b4 he should even be thinking about women. A LOT. He over thinks everything, and he's not even a man of action. He came to the conclusion that he will "never get girls" by thinking about it and coming up with that conclusion in his own mind. Not by trial and error, not by constant rejection from girls, just by believing in his fucking mind he can't do it. I think it's better he deletes his account because maybe he'll actually take action for once. You're a fucking marine bro! Are you really just quitting because you don't know what to say to a girl?!?
@ fckd - if you aren't quitting, your problem is that you come to this forum for two things
1) to ask really general questions or
2) to complain
This is not how you improve. If you want general advice, read mark's blog, the book, whatever. I have said before that you need to very specifically describe what happens in your interactions and exactly where those things go wrong, if you are going to improve. I previously suggested you do this, which I know you read because you said you would post in reply after doing more approaches. You never followed through on that. If you still care about getting help, you have to get more specific about what happens in your interactions, and where they go wrong.
Here's my advice for fcked.
First of all, change that name. "fcked = fucked = i am fucked". What kind of pua name are you telling yourself. You're telling yourself that you're a loser and it's not helping you with women.
Here are the issues you have to fix:
Quote:- I'm short. (So what? Plenty of guys shorter than me get laid.)
- I look young for my age. (OK, and? Looks aren't important when it comes to attraction.)
- I've never gotten laid before. (Not like this is anything special; plenty of guys have lost their virginities late into their 20s; I'm only 20)
- I hate my job with a passion. (Fuck it. I can't quit now. I still have 2 more years to go. Just pretend like I love it and that I'm passionate about it.)
- I'm gonna fuck this up. (I've fucked shit up before. This is no different.)
- I'm gonna get rejected. (Good. I'll learn from my mistakes, realize this girl isn't for me, and move on to the next one.)
- I don't know how to relate to girls. (This is probably true for a lot of other guys and, guess what, they probably have no problem getting laid.)
You have the height belief. You have to do tons of more approaches and get more social experience to get over this.
Looking young has gotten many guys laid.
The only way to fix your virginity is to go out and get laid. I hope your standard isnt stupidly high. As a virgin, start getting laid in anyway possible. Bang a 7 before you bang a 9.
Unfortunately, when you hate your job, it WILL come across to everyone you meet. Hell, it's hard to make guy friends when you hate what you're doing, let alone trying to get girls to like you.
You have to change this belief. My belief is that there's quite a few girls who found me extremely attractive and there are many qualities i have about myself that i love. Hell, if i find a girl version of myself, i think that person is fucking awelsome. First, like yourself before you expect other people to like you. Take a look at yourself, what do you like about yourself?
Also, get success on SOMETHING other than chicks. It seem that overall, you fail at everything, so you EXPECT to fail at girls. Get success at SOMETHING.
You dont know how to relate to girls because you dont like anything about yourself. If you dont like anything about yourself, how can you like ANY quality about the girl other than her pussy?
Fckd, from your post, I just feel you're probably someone who needs to deal with putting and organizing your life in order before thinking about pick-up.