In my experience of approaching girls, I get the “this is my girlfriend” line in the very early stages of meeting a girl after approaching her. This is what happens: the girl will grab her friend and say to me “this is my girlfriend,” basically telling me that she’s a lesbian, she’s not actually a lesbian, she’s just trying to get rid of me, so that I get away from her. This happens more when approaching direct, but also happens when approaching indirect. I get this line way more than the “I have a boyfriend” line. I’ve asked other guys, and they told me that girls use the fake lesbian line a lot to them, my wingman also has gotten that a lot as well. In my opinion, this is just a common line girls use now in their arsenal to get rid of men. My question is: what’s a good response to the fake lesbian line? Obviously, I have no chance with the girl but walking away right after she drops the line doesn’t look good, walking away after the “I have a boyfriend” line is much easier. If my wingman is next to me, I grab him as say “this is my boyfriend,” but he’s usually too far away to do that. Any ideas for a good response? Thanks.
I'm assuming these girls are young (18-23). Seems like younger girls need to be shown interest in a more indirect way. This is not about the girl herself, but about the group which tries to intercede and keep her "safe". Just approach in a more fun way and slowly transition to showing interest (not field tested by me).
Don't worry about coming up with a clever response. At that point the girl has already rejected you and you're not going to recover 99.99% of the time. And after you get rejected, who gives a fuck about looking good? You're never going to see these girls again in your life, and no one else in the venue is giving two shits about your blow out, so you're not really losing "social proof" - which is an iffy concept to begin with.
Instead, you gotta work on your approach. You're obviously doing something wrong to get this rejection as much as it sounds like you are. Either you're not approaching with enough confidence, or not coming in playful enough, or your hair isn't cut, you have dirt on your face, and you look and smell like shit. I dunno, I don't you know. Figure out what's causing you to get this reaction, and work on not getting that reaction as much, as opposed to working on a clever line in response to that reaction.
Thanks for the tips. I've watched guys go up to the same girl that I approached and she'll drop the same fake lesbian line on all of them. It's really not the approach because I rarely get rejected so early into the interaction. On the rare occasion I do get rejected so early in the interaction, it's either the "I have a boyfriend" or "this is my girlfriend." I'm surprised none of you have heard the fake lesbian line and I'm surprised that PUA companies never talk about this because it's very common, not just for me. btw I'm only talking about night club/bar settings. My main question was: although I know the sets blown up (I know I got to eject), I was wondering what a good response would be because I hear it so much, even when I'm being indirect. In my opinion, girls using that line are just not interested or not in the mood at the moment to meet guys and they just want to have fun while rejecting guys. Also, the group does not intercede, the girl grabs her nearest friend and injects her into the interaction.
When, during the interaction, you're getting the "I have a girlfriend excuse" is really inconsequential, the point still remains; try and figure out WHY you're getting that response, and work to not getting it. Yes, some girls are just not in the mood to talk or meet guys or whatever, but honestly, I don't think you should be getting that excuse as much as it sounds like you do. Then again, it is possible that some girls are just shit testing you, but my gut tells me that's probably not what's going on. Regardless, coming up with the "perfect response" is a waste of time. I say either figure out why you're getting that response, or just ignore it and kinda plow through or give them a tease back - it doesn't have to be genius.
Brett's right. Stop worrying about how to recover and figure out why you're getting that reaction in the first place.
Completely agree with Brett. You may be going indirect, but you may be indicating interest with BL. Try to approach a few sets without any intention to game and see if you still get the line. That will tell you if it is your BL.
The fact that you approach indicates interest. I've gotten this line plenty of times. It's a rejection. Just move on and stop wasting time.