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I've done a lot of ballsy and vulnerable things lately. Things that i would have never thought of doing just a few months ago. However, there's one thing I'm terrified to do and that's to be 100% vulnerable and honest to my mother and sister. My mother still thinks I'm an angel (she's very religious) and my sister thinks I can do no wrong.

I feel like they don't even know who I am anymore. My little sister has been down in the dumps lately and comes to me with her problems. But, I have problems of my own and won't speak of it to her.

So I guess my question is, should I let my sister and mother know some of the things I've done. Things like drinking, having sex, smoking weed occasionally, etc. and be completely honest with them. Or is all the information going to be too much for them?

That really depends on your parents views on drinking, sex, and drugs. My parents are pro drinking, anti drugs, and have never really discussed sex with me. Their view on me and having sex is, "If he has it, I don't want to know".

The only time my dad talked to me about sex was when I was suppose to go on a date at 16. He said, "ughhh, so do you know about diseases and stuff you can get, if you..you know? They taught you that at school right?".

Remember, vulnerability doesn't mean going around spilling your guts to everyone about everything. It simply means being willing to honest express yourself in whatever situation arises.

So in this case, it seems unnecessary.

Thats a nice perspective on it.

So if you know yourself, accept yourself, and know that whatever you did won't have a serious effect for either of you, and you know you COULD share it, but you don't share it because it could cause the other distress or it could destroy your relationship, then you are still vulnerable?

I definitely don't share everything i've done with my parents. There's certain things they just don't need to know about, especially since i've been getting older (25 now). If push came to shove i'd tell them and I wouldn't be ashamed though.